the knitting ref

Friday, April 20, 2007

30 Days & Transition

30 Days…..

The clock has ticked off a month since the Knittyref left us. I am thankful that her suffering has ended and that she is at peace. But, there is such a void left in all our lives. A few points:

  • Diane loved Soccer. She loved the game. She was a student of the game; after all she was a referee. Fairness in the game was imperative. She truly believed -- “If you’re not having fun, you’re not playing it right.”
  • Diane loved crafts and was so incredibly talented – stained glass, quilling, needlework, crocheting, and of course knitting, spinning, and whatever with yarn! She was always the most relaxed when she had the needles going away or the wheel was spinning.
  • Diane lived the courageous life. Living her life by such phrases as -- Live well; Don’t give up; Be strong; Live strong; Never give up; Try your hardest; Have fun doing it; and Don’t dwell in sadness.

Diane lived the kind of life that is noble and brave and strong. There aren’t many people like Diane. She was rare and special and unique. She was a gift to all of us.

The Good Lord has a way of blessing us in the hardest of times. Diane was blessed by us and we were blessed by Diane.


Life goes on as we all know. Unless any of you have a major conniption, I plan to switch this blog over to the story of me – the hubster – and my assault or attempts at learning the fine arts of knitting and spinning. After all, I am also a referee and aspire to be a knitter and spinner. Of course, the other point -- What else would I do with the formidable yarn and roving stash Diane has passed on to me??!!!! I will need your help, please be patient!

And so the story will continue……

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Happy Anniversary Sweetheart!

Happy 9th Anniversary Sweetheart!

A year ago today, the Knittyref told all of you a fairy-tale version of our life. Yes, our life together has had some ups and downs as any relationship will. However, both of us said our vows to each other and really meant them – “for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health”. The first half of our life together was spent in the normal whirlwind of life that we all seem to be in – work, sleep, soccer practice, soccer games, go here, go there, do this, do that! There was little quality time for us. Then the Knittyref’s diagnosis and life changed. We didn’t stop living or doing, but everything became less spontaneous and had to be done in conjunction with her treatment schedule. Life became much more meaningful! Togetherness became so much more important. The second half of our life together has been the best and I will cherish and remember it forever!

Take each day and live it to its’ fullest. Always tell those closest to you how much you love them and cherish them. Be Happy! Be Well!

As I quoted a couple of posts ago:

If I should live forever
And all my dreams come true
My memories of love will be of you

Happy Anniversary Di -- my friend, my companion, my lover, my life – I was so proud and honored to be your husband!

Sunday, April 01, 2007

Today we Celebrate!

From the "program" card at the Knittyref's service....

God Saw She....
God saw that she was getting tired and a cure was not to be.
So He put His arms around her and whispered, "Come with Me".
With tearful eyes we watched her suffer and saw her fade away.
Although we loved her dearly, we could not make her stay.
A golden heart stopped beating.
Hard working hands came to rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He only takes the best.

Today we celebrate and honor the Knittyref (Diane) and her short time with us.

I, the hubster, celebrate her as my wife, my best friend, my companion, my lover, my teacher, my mentor and my inspiration. She was such a GIFT!

I know that many of you have been touched and blessed by her. I would so appreciate being able to communicate with all of you. I don't know all of the blogs she visited. Please send me an e-mail with your blog address, so I may find you. My e-mail address is

Bless all of you and thanks so much for all the prayers and thoughts!