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Friday, May 23, 2008

Importat Things

Thursday, May 01, 2008

New Doorways...

Yes, I have installed my new front door to my home. It is a gorgeous door with a beautiful leaded glass window.

This post was written on April 30th -- even though the date above shows the 1st of May. Today, I am celebrating my 52nd birthday. WOW! I have been blessed with so very many wonderful things -- and I thank the Lord for each and every one of those blessings. The most important of those blessings is my good health, my friend D and that I have both my mom and dad still alive and well!

This has been a month of important things:

It may be most of us write our own life story
Making it up as we go along
But others seem to have lifes’ shaped and planned
As perfect as a circle

Yes, some lives form a perfect circle
While others take shape in ways we cannot predict or always understand
Loss has been of my journey
but, it has also shown me what is precious
And in that I have found a love for which I can always be grateful….

The last month has been a month of good-byes
Yes, good-bye..... such an incredibly sad and regretful event in one’s experience …..

I have said Good-Bye to my last love – Di
One whom showed me what true love is really all about and what I must have in future relationships now.
One whom I married and cherished
One whom I was to spend all my days with…..but
Yes, alas “all my days” was really only to be 9 ½ years
One who will always have a place in my heart
However, my purpose in reality, was to take her through her last days only, not mine
That was my real purpose ….. that was my life …..
And yes, I did that well and to the absolute best of my ability!

Friends are made of Gold, but

I have had to say Good-Bye to my Friend – S
One who will always have a special place in my heart
For it was she, who put life and things into perspective after Di’s passing at six months

It was her that provided love and friendship at a time when they were so needed
Unfortunately, I have now become cumbersome and something that complicates her life
And thus, I have been let go of - at this point in time
But yes, I am still grateful and thankful for all she has been to me
Friends are made of Gold and Yes, I will hold her as my friend forever…..

Also, I have a good friend -A - who lost her mom this past month.

I did not know her mom, but I feel so very much for her with her loss
I thank the Lord every day that I still have both of my parents alive and in good health.
I can only hope that they know how very much they are appreciated and loved!

New Doorways ----
Yes, the future is bright and blessed! Thank You Lord!!!

Thursday, March 20, 2008


When spring begins
Again to light
Our happy world
With colors bright,
The robins all come
Back to see
How beautiful The earth will be,
With crocus gold,
And daffodils
Lighting meadows,
Fields, and hills;
With leaves of green
And tulips gay,
And birds arriving
Every day.

The Call of Spring by Norman Schlichter

Spring is always a beginning. The bleariness of winter is over and all of the colours of the earth are coming out. The sounds of the birds and sounds of children’s laughter and playing outside are rampant. Such wonderful sights and sounds! Such a celebration of the earth!

I set out on a narrow way many years ago
Hoping I would find true love along the broken road
But I got lost a time or two
Wiped my brow and kept pushing through
I couldn’t see how every sign pointed straight to you
Every long lost dream lead me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you

I think about the years I spent just passing through
I’d like to have the time I lost and give it back to you
But you just smile and take my hand
You’ve been there you understand
It’s all part of a grander plan that is coming true

Every long lost dream lead me to where you are
Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars
Pointing me on my way into your loving arms
This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you
Rascal Flatts

The Broken Road – Life itself….. Today is the year anniversary of the passing of my last love, Di. I had 9 ½ wonderful years with Di. A relationship I will never forget and also a chapter in my life where I learned so very much about relationships. This last year has been one of the shortest and at the same time one of the longest years of my life. However, God has smiled upon me and has given me many, many wonderful things as my life -- Friends, Family, Loves, Talents, Abilities, Good Health, and so very much more. I thank the Lord for guiding me along The Broken Road. Now a time has come for a new relationship – a new love for my life – the next part of the path of my life – something already written upon a scroll between God and Me. Blessings yet to come….. Yes! I am so very Grateful and I am so very Hopeful and Thankful!

I am so Blessed!

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

Life as it Is Today......

I don’t know why, but for the last three months I have just been unable to post. Lots of things have been happening, but the will to express them as a post has not been there. So many times I have said, “I need to do a post”, but then time has past without such happening.

The projects are still going on – my master bedroom, my master bathroom, and my kitchen – all are still “works in progress”. For one thing, Mother nature has not cooperated with my schedule and thus I am behind. I was talking last night to my friend D and telling her how I could be a procrastinator. But in this sense, Mother nature and other activities have not allowed me to keep up with my projects. However, I am having a dinner gathering on the 15th here at my house, so this weekend will be focused on getting the kitchen cabinet with the sink & dishwasher back into operation. You know how hard it is to have a dinner gathering without a kitchen sink???!!!!

Speaking of my dinner gathering – 10 to 12 soccer referees -- most of which have known each other for years – a whole bunch of war stories -- and just good friends getting together. I am not sure exactly what the menu will be at this time, but that will come. Could anything be better???? !!!!! Well maybe…. But I won’t go there (at least right now)!~

I went back to work the beginning of February. It was time. I am back in sales and really having a good time, but the transition to working every day normal working hours was definitely something that tried my patience. Things are good though as I work with good people and have a wonderful boss. It’s so nice having a boss who actually cares about his people!

Yesterday, I lost a Friend – one who has been very dear to me especially across the last year. You know, in my book real friendships are beyond gold, and it hurt to lose such a friend – especially for the end result. My friend gave up everything including her “self” to “get back” with her significant other. I do not understand the thought process of allowing one’s self to lose the “self” for someone else. In my book, you always must always be ultimately true to yourself as opposed to giving up yourself just to be with someone else. After all, if the other can not accept you for what you are and appreciate all of what you are, then why bother with them???

This past weekend I was in Riverside at the AYSO Section 1 playoffs. Teams that have excelled through their regular season in their home regions coming together to compete against other regions. It was such fun refereeing. It was such fun watching the kids compete. Sunday, I refereed two very good L.A. teams – it was a wonderful match with both sides working as hard as they could. Soccer is such a good game for all ages – it truly is a “game of life”. The experiences within the game all translate to life and it’s experiences.

I mentioned my friend D earlier in this post. She is a very unique and special person. D is one who can look at little things and find ABSOLUTE joy in them. A lesson for me to learn, as so many times it is those little things that come to mean so very much. It is so very nice to have her friendship and companionship in my life now. I am Thankful and I am Grateful…..
Finally for this post, Oh yes, I am ready to learn how to spin. I have the books and I have the pictures -- it is time to learn such an art!

Monday, December 10, 2007

An Early Christmas Present

Friday I left home for the lands of Alabama and Tennessee -- or more specifically Huntsville, AL and Colombia, TN. I was going to visit friends....
Bill, Lin, Kathy, & Mary in Huntsville who I have not seen or talked to in 31 years --YES, 31 YEARS! The years have been good to B & L as they looked just like they were when I saw them last -- except for just a tad bit of gray hair. K & M (the daughters) last I saw were very small and are now all grown up. What fun it was to re-connect and catch-up with what has happened over the years, after all they have raised a family since I saw them last! B & L are also in the midst of a remodel of their house, so it was fun to talk about all that was going on with their remodel vs. what is happening with my remodel. Such stories....
Then on Sunday I drove up to Colombia to see friends I have worked with in the past, but have not seen for 8 years. Again such fun to catch-up with and share what's been happening with each of our lives. Judy & Wallace had just come back from Chile and Argentina -- so lots of pictures and some short movies of the cool things they saw there. We compared notes on our trips -- theirs to Chile & Argentina and mine last year to New Zealand. J & W also have a gorgeous new home that was wonderful to see.

What a wonderful early Christmas present!

Thursday, November 22, 2007

Happy Thanksgiving to All

The LORD bless you, and keep you. The LORD make his face shine upon you, and be gracious unto you. The LORD lift up his countenance upon you, and give you peace.
The sun is rising for another beautiful day here in Southern California and it is Thanksgiving! A year ago I was in New Zealand on the south island enjoying the country's incredible magnificence and the people's wonderful hospitality. It's hard to believe a year has passed -- a year that has been filled with so many emotions.
Today, I will Celebrate and give Thanks.
I have so very much to be thankful for -- as I have been so blessed:
Family, Wonderful Friends, Good Neighbors, and many Acquaintances
for two good children
that Both of my parents are still alive and well
that I have had and continue to have a Wonderful Life
to live in Southern California
for my Home and all its' blessings
for my good Health
for all of the Abilities & Talents I have been blessed with
and All the other Gifts I have been Blessed with
Today will also be a day of Celebration. I will Celebrate the Life of my late wife Di -- the wonderful and strong person she was; the incredibly talented person she was; the love she had for me and we had for each other; and the short time of life we had together!
Happy Thanksgiving to You and Yours --
may Yours be also so Blessed!

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Shades Of......

I am just plainly depressed from the events of the last week – primarily the Santa Ana’s (winds) and the fires. Very little has been positive and while I am normally very positive about life itself, this past week has just been “one of those weeks” where I just can’t seem to shake things to the other side. Also, unfortunately the good things that did happen have now been overshadowed by all of the other things that have happened. [Some very good things happened, and I really need to bring them back to the forefront of my mind.] I need an attitude adjustment! Hopefully, the coming week will change my attitude.

Of course, California has been in all the news this past week with all the fires going on. I had no less than 5 fires close to me. The smoke, ash and cinders were all around throughout the week. The fires, smoke and ash sure brought back memories of the Old Fire which I lived through four years ago beginning coincidentally October 25th, 2003. I remember being ready to evacuate – dogs in one car and the cats in the other, losing power around 2 in the afternoon, saving my house [and the neighbors’] by putting out a fire in the back yard with the hose, staying up on the roof and hosing the house down every hour until just before midnight, and taking a walk throughout the neighborhood at midnight and just seeing how many houses were either gone or on fire. I remember the succeeding days without power as slowly life was restored. I remember neighbors helping each other. These were days and events I really do not want to relive. My heart has been with those who were going through what I did four years ago as I watched the images on the news. My gratitude has been to those who have worked so hard for those affected.

Not a lot has happened on the projects this past week due to the fires and the terrible air quality. I did not want to open up the house to work on my bedroom/bathroom, so I worked on other things inside. This week I am hoping the tides will change and I will accomplish a good bit on my bedroom/bathroom. Also, this coming week – a new front door! I’ll post pictures after it’s installed!

Today, has been a day of music and reflection. I have found this wonderful artist called DAVOL. Their/His music is inspiring and really easy to listen to. Again, I have been reflecting -- what’s really important and what is not for me. I can only hope that I have my priorities correct and those that matter can see…..